This is awesome.

A great post on people who play at marriage.

I like that she points out how insulting it is – I think we should move in together.  In other words, “I want you to put out regularly, but don’t love you enough to marry you.”  Absolutely true.

Why is it that girls are impressed with this offer?  Because they are lied to.  They are led to believe that this is necessary.  It’s like the guy who says, “I love you, but if you won’t have sex with me, I will break up with you.”

No, he doesn’t love you.  He is a dog who is looking for a tree to hump.  If you aren’t there, a different tree will do.  It is degrading.  The so-called sexual revolution convinced women that they had to put out to get a man.  But in doing so, it made men value women less, not more.  Now, we don’t even have to worry about getting her pregnant.  We can rut at will, and there are no consequences (for us).   If she does, it’s her problem.  As the author of the blog above said in a different post, men just have to hug her and say, “I’ll support whatever you decide.”  Ta-Da!  Off the hook, and off to hump something else.

None of this is new, and all can be found better written somewhere else, so just lick the link above and read.  Destined to be a classic.


2 Responses to “This is awesome.”

  1. Thanks for the link! You’re up in WY? I’d love to swap stories sometime about how you present this material to your couples, youth group, etc. Keep up the good work – we win in the end, it turns out.

    • forestboar Says:

      We do Catechesis in 5-6 grade. Because there are still a few years before it becomes a reality for them, I simply tell them, “Don’t do it. And don’t ask the pastor to marry you if you do. Then he’s the jerk. But you are the one who is doing something you shouldn’t. And I told you now that it just won’t happen, so don’t even ask.”

      I tell them that marriage is hard, but that there are some things you can do to make it more likely to last. (So why wouldn’t you do them?)

      50% – odds of a marriage surviving nationwide.
      25% – odds of a marriage surviving if you live together first. (Why would you do this to your marriage?)
      75% – odds of a marriage surviving if you belong to the same church
      90% – odds of a marriage surviving if you actually attend church together
      98% – odds of a marriage surviving if you pray together.

      I may have the numbers slightly wrong, and they are outdated, but it gets the point across.

      By the time someone is “ready” for marriage and they have been living together, there is little to be done. Woe be unto the pastor who dares to tell a girl that her wedding can not be exactly as she has planned it since the age of seven. And more woe be unto the pastor that dares to suggest that the groom to be will be cut off from sex until the wedding. I have only ever had one couple move out until the marriage. The rest just go somewhere else. I have turned down more marriages than I have performed.

      Most pastors would rather do a funeral than a wedding. Truly. Because weddings are too often about the wedding, and too seldom about the marriage. It sounds like you have a pretty good grasp of that. Blessings to you and your fiance.


      Pastor Winter
      PS. The South won the last battle of the Civil War. I must remind myself of this constantly. Battles are not wars. And, as you say, the war has already been won.

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